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Post by jacques on Jan 13, 2018 3:49:31 GMT
for some reason I dont mind not catching up with a friend for ages. whats wrong with me? the biggest problem is that I'm content like this. are you guys socialize a lot?
also if you saw a girl you like at a cafe, do you think it's weird to ask them if they want to hang out? I mean, how else am i supposed to be friends with them? my excuse would be that I'm new in town and don't know anyone (which is true). only other option is to wait for a coincidence where we see eachother somewhere else and I can be like "hey, you work at that cafe! i like the cafe! lets be friend!"
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Post by Deleted on Jan 13, 2018 8:14:14 GMT
if you are good looking it's okay to ask to hang out, but if you are ugly there are high chances that you will look bad, i know it's quite harsh but it's reality.
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Post by jacques on Jan 13, 2018 9:40:26 GMT
im pretty damn good looking
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Post by Deleted on Jan 13, 2018 15:22:38 GMT
imo its completely fine to not talk to certain people for a while, healthy even.
there also aint anything wrong with being honest like that, go for it jacques
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Post by jacques on Jan 27, 2018 0:46:09 GMT
i asked her if we can be friends and shes like SURE WE CAN BE FRIENDS, WHATS YA NAME and then i got her number. then i wondered why i was worried about it. though we still havent hung out together yet, dunno if she's genuinely too busy but she says maybe this day or that day but then shes busy again. might be some kind of slow rejection technique, but then not sure why she would suggest possible days/time of day if she didnt want to hang. i guess just a matter of time to see
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Post by HarneyBarnes on Jan 27, 2018 2:13:06 GMT
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Post by Deleted on Jan 30, 2018 9:33:18 GMT
I see my friends some times but I have no urge to really. if I spend some time with some people for a while then maybe for a day being alone always feels odd but I get used to it again pretty quick
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Post by Deleted on Feb 28, 2018 11:05:04 GMT
Id like to hang out with you guys irl but Im afraid how different wed be irl compared to our online personas. sometimes I wish I had put on a funny persona to seem more mysterious but I was too lazy and now I'm just stuck as myself  |
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Post by Jinxtengu on Mar 7, 2018 5:26:16 GMT
for some reason I dont mind not catching up with a friend for ages. whats wrong with me? the biggest problem is that I'm content like this. are you guys socialize a lot? also if you saw a girl you like at a cafe, do you think it's weird to ask them if they want to hang out? I mean, how else am i supposed to be friends with them? my excuse would be that I'm new in town and don't know anyone (which is true). only other option is to wait for a coincidence where we see eachother somewhere else and I can be like "hey, you work at that cafe! i like the cafe! lets be friend!" Been a while since you called me man  I actually force myself to socialize, because I believe It's a skill that youv'e gotta work on to improve, and I know I need the practice. When I lived at home my mother wouldn't let me have much of a normal social life. She said I should stay indoors because things outside were mostly dangerous, she actively discoraged my doing anything independant. I resent her for that, but anyway, thats why I really need the practice, talking to people that is, tying to take part in the shared human experience. getting along with people and accepting them as they are. It's difficult, because at some level I really feel a sense of misanthropy and otherness, I mean I like talking to people when they share my values and intrests, but barely anyone does. I feel like so few people are really on the level. I am confident when I socialise but it's still effortful. another thing it's hard for me, logistically speaking, to actually get to see my friends. It takes 5 hours to get into town, too long i think. this continent is too big. Maybe im too judgy about people, i could have other friends In this town perhaps, but no, when I do meet people who are on the same wavelength I remember having good robust conversations, exploring ideas not just talking like marionettes . the memory of those times leads me to conclude that there are indeed few others who are on the level. People in this town are quite conservative. I don’t think their used to having their core ideas challenged, infact doing so might be rather hazardous for my health., it's hard for me not to grimmace while hearing about the next nothing or the most dull echo of some, (not even recent) piece of thought propaganda. , and to smile it's hard. to be around people like that changes a person, and I do not want to change, I do not want to have those values, I would rather die. I care about my art, and having a world of art and beauty, rather than a world of sport and stupidity. Anyway, In short I like to socialise but only with the right people. Don't lose your head over the girl jacques. People in general like a healthy amount of disinterest. Sycophancy is a turnoff, even for friends, and to those who actually respond to it, they aren’t worth it anyway. |
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Post by jacques on Mar 9, 2018 1:31:15 GMT
So do you talk about creativity or anything? is it liek you dont have anything in common
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Post by jacques on Mar 9, 2018 4:35:03 GMT
email me your number I have a new phone.
unfortunately i did lose my head over the girl because I am retarded. anyway it was hard not to as she looks like abby lee from mad max but anyway thinking back on it i can see she wasnt intereted to hang from moment I got her number and I was nervous. I should probably do this to strangers for practice
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Post by Jinxtengu on Mar 9, 2018 11:06:37 GMT
email me your number I have a new phone. unfortunately i did lose my head over the girl because I am retarded. anyway it was hard not to as she looks like abby lee from mad max but anyway thinking back on it i can see she wasnt intereted to hang from moment I got her number and I was nervous. I should probably do this to strangers for practice I'll PM you. I might have got a new phone too, but Im not sure. I remember back in 2014.. aww but anyway never mind. Yeah don't be nervous. Sounds like you blew it, but I wouldn't sweat it. |
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Post by Jinxtengu on Mar 10, 2018 0:54:53 GMT
. My friends can't take bad movies seriously, they only play mainstream games and watch canned comedy. I respect that and I can understand it. Sacrilege!! I don’t see why you feel like you have to “respect” those things, I mean they are objectively boring interests. |
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Post by jacques on Mar 11, 2018 3:55:28 GMT
I kind of dont regret anything, I was just being myself. shes a young and ignorant anyway, which if i thought more like that at the time i wouldn't have been as nervous but
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